This post was originally sent on the Point Letter.
Sure, home is where the heart is. I needed to say that first just to get it out of the way, but the past 10 days I’ve learned that defining what home is can’t simply be done by putting the person you love in it. Home is mostly about memories, but there is more to it. Home is about comfort. Home is about knowing that everything has a place. Home is about having a nest for you to recharge for the day ahead.
About 10 days ago Paige and I moved into our new home. We’re first time homeowners.
This has been both an exciting and a stressful journey. We’ve been in the home for nearly two weeks and to be honest - it doesn’t feel like home yet. But that statement isn’t as bad as it sounds, don’t worry, there are no regrets. I’m learning that defining what my home is doesn’t happen over night. I spent the last five years in Downtown Sioux Falls lofts and the last three in the same 975 sq foot apartment. None of that is similar to a quiet home in a nice neighborhood. But the real lesson here is much greater.
We need to continue to evolve where your home is.
Home is about comfort and memories, but creating more memories and redefining what comfort means is about stretching ourselves and pushing our boundaries. To experience new things and evolve as people we need to step outside our comfort zone. The awkwardness and unfamiliarity forces us to adapt, to adjust, to look at situations and problems in a new way. When we’re thrown into this discomfort we find strengths and ideas we didn’t know we had.
I’m not saying you need to buy a new house every five years, that’s just silly. But whether it’s the physical place you call home, new paint in the kitchen, a vacation for the week away from home, or simply reorganizing the bedroom, evolving home is a good thing.
Growing pains can hurt, but they’re always worth it in the end.